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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I was obsessed, and like most obsessed people, I was the last one to know I was obsessed, and like most obsessed people, I was the last one to know it. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Your life's work begins when your great joy meets the world's great hunger. Your life's work begins when your great joy meets the world's great hunger. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: We have looked for myths that include us in great novels, music, the latest comic We have looked for myths that include us in great novels, music, the latest comic book, or even some stupid advertising campaign. We'll look *anywhere* for a mythology that embraces people like ourselves. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: We can't ignore right-wing demagogues who insist that the word of the doctor who proclaims We can't ignore right-wing demagogues who insist that the word of the doctor who proclaims a child's sex at birth somehow holds more sway over the reality of the body than the word of the person who inhabits it. - Gwendolyn Ann Smith — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Male privilege is, in a word, violence. Male privilege is, in a word, violence. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: There are Easter eggs in every book I've ever written. I think in the first There are Easter eggs in every book I've ever written. I think in the first one I called [Scientology] "Diabology," but I was scared, so I didn't tell many people what it really meant. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The whole transgender movement idea is happening in waves around the world. Some areas of The whole transgender movement idea is happening in waves around the world. Some areas of the world are further along politically than others. The economy has a lot to do with that, as does moral or religious climate. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I have this idea that every time we discover that the names we're being called I have this idea that every time we discover that the names we're being called are somehow keeping us less than free, we need to come up with new names for ourselves, and that the names we give ourselves must no longer reflect a fear of being labeled outsiders, must no longer bind us to a system that would rather see us dead. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I honor anybody who wants to be a man and do the work of becoming I honor anybody who wants to be a man and do the work of becoming a man. I honor anyone who mindfully becomes a woman. That's cool. But, I really don't get how there's only two choices. There's no two of anything else in the entire universe; why should there only be two genders? I don't get it. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Safe gender is being who and what we want to be when we want to Safe gender is being who and what we want to be when we
want to be that, with no threat of censure or violence.
Safe gender is going as far in any direction as we wish,
With no threat to our health, or anyone else's.
Safe gender is not being pressured into passing, not
Having to lie, not having to hide.
Sane gender is asking questions about gender - talking
To people who do gender, and opening up about our
Gender histories and our gender desires.
Sane gender is probably very, very funny.
Consensual gender is respecting each others' definition
Of gender, and respecting the wishes of some to be alone,
And respecting the intentions of others to be inclusive in
Their own time.
Consensual gender is non-violent in that it doesn't force
Its way in on anyone.
Consensual gender opens its arms and welcomes all
People as gender outcasts - whoever is willing to admit it. — Kate Bornstein
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein S. Bear Bergman: Instead of saying that all gender is this or all gender id that, let's recognize Instead of saying that all gender is this or all gender id that, let's recognize that the word gender has scores of meanings built into it. It's an amalgamation of bodies, identities, and life experiences, subconscious urges, sensations, and behaviours, some of which develop organically, and others which are shaped by language and culture. Instead of saying that gender is any one single thing, let's start describing it as a holistic experience. — Kate Bornstein S. Bear Bergman
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Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I remember one Fourth of July evening in Philadelphia, about a year after my surgery. I remember one Fourth of July evening in Philadelphia, about a year after my surgery. I was walking home arm in arm with Lisa, my lover at the time, after the fireworks display. We were leaning in to one another, walking like lovers walk. Coming towards us was a family of five: mom, dad, and three teenage boys. "Look it's a coupla faggots," said one of the boys. "Nah, it's two girls," said another. "That's enough outa you," bellowed the father, "one of 'em's got to be a man. This is America! — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Drag queen is a gender like no other, and with practice I'd learned to rise Drag queen is a gender like no other, and with practice I'd learned to rise to it. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Let's stop "tolerating" or "accepting" difference, as if we're so much better for not being Let's stop "tolerating" or "accepting" difference, as if we're so much better for not being different. Instead, let's celebrate difference, because in this world it takes a lot of guts to be different and to act differently. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: This Western culture of ours tends to sacrifice the full range of experience to a This Western culture of ours tends to sacrifice the full range of experience to a lower common denominator that's acceptable to more people; we end up with McDonald's instead of real food, Holiday Inns instead of homes, and USA Today instead of news and cultural analysis. And we do that with the rest of our lives. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: And keep in mind that the you that makes life worthy of living today won't And keep in mind that the you that makes life worthy of living today won't be the same you that makes life worth living this time next year. Identities aren't meant to be permanent. They're like cars: they take us from one place to another. We work, travel, and seek adventure in them until they break down beyond repair. At that point, living well means finding a new model that better suits us for a new moment. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I know and know of more than a few MTF's (male-to-female trannies) who've developed strange I know and know of more than a few MTF's (male-to-female trannies) who've developed strange cancers. Myself, I've got a nice little case of Chronic Lymphocitic Leukemia (CLL). — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Both bisexuality and transgender are fluid notions of identity, while lesbian and gay are fixed Both bisexuality and transgender are fluid notions of identity, while lesbian and gay are fixed identities. Some people believe that means there should be two movements: LG and BT. But then what're ya gonna do about SM players? And intersexed folks who want their own I in the alphabet soup of sex and gender related politics? — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: One answer to the question "Who is a transsexual?" might well be "Anyone who admits One answer to the question "Who is a transsexual?" might well be "Anyone who admits it." A more political answer might, "Anyone whose performance of gender calls into question the construct of gender itself. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The first question we usually ask new parents is : "Is it a boy or The first question we usually ask new parents is : "Is it a boy or a girl ?".
There is a great answer to that one going around : "We don't know ; it hasn't told us yet." Personally, I think no question containing "either/or" deserves a serious answer, and that includes the question of gender. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Sex work may be an illegal thing, but it's far from being a bad thing. Sex work may be an illegal thing, but it's far from being a bad thing. Quite a few of us on the male-to-female side of the coin have done sex work. I've done it myself for a couple of years. It's a place we can make a living and have some fun doing it. It's a place we seem to fit in. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Never fuck anyone you wouldn't want to be. Never fuck anyone you wouldn't want to be. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Growing up we were secular Jews, but what I got out of Judaism at that Growing up we were secular Jews, but what I got out of Judaism at that time in my life was questions. Everything was a question. "Dad, is there a heaven? Is there a hell?" You never could get an answer. That informed a lot of my reasons for getting into Scientology, because they had all the answers. They said I was not my body, not my mind. I don't have a soul; I am an immortal soul. I've lived many lives and I'll live endlessly into the future, and as an immortal soul I have no gender. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The transgender movement even divides itself up by gender, as many folks stick with their The transgender movement even divides itself up by gender, as many folks stick with their same trans-genders (female-to-male or male-to-female). Additionally, the movement gets strangely subdivided among, for example, male cross-dressers, sissy boys, butch women, femme dykes, drag kings, drag queens, transvestites, intersexed, transsexuals (post-op, pre-op, and non-op). — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: It's easy to fictionalize an issue when you're not aware of the many ways in It's easy to fictionalize an issue when you're not aware of the many ways in which you are privileged by it. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: My own take on the word "transgender" is that it's an umbrella term for anyone My own take on the word "transgender" is that it's an umbrella term for anyone who breaks any rules, laws, guidelines or protocol of gender. So, to really be an ally, it's important that you recognize and embrace your own transgender nature. Really, I haven't met a single person who doesn't break some rule of gender. In other words, we will assimilate you. Resistance is futile. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: There are more and more visibly weird and freaky people in the world these days, There are more and more visibly weird and freaky people in the world these days, and it's high time we stop carrying forward the junior high school dynamic of excluding them all from our lives or worse ... nailing them to some cross. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: While railing against the manufactured prerequisites of womanhood or manhood, we need to avoid manufacturing While railing against the manufactured prerequisites of womanhood or manhood, we need to avoid manufacturing our own prerequisites. The non-operative journey and the objection to it illustrate just one area in which we need to open our thinking to other journeys while expecting that others respect our own. - Mercedes Allen — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: There's no such thing as hurting someone for their own good. There's only hurting someone There's no such thing as hurting someone for their own good. There's only hurting someone for your own good. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: My grandmother told me something I've never forgotten. 'Never fuck anyone you wouldn't want to My grandmother told me something I've never forgotten. 'Never fuck anyone you wouldn't want to be.' -audience member — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: It doesn't really matter what a person decides to do, or how radically a person It doesn't really matter what a person decides to do, or how radically a person plays with gender. What matters, I think, is how aware a person is of the options. How sad for a person to be missing out on some expression of identity, just for not knowing there are options — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Being transgender guarantees you will upset someone. People get upset with transgender people who choose Being transgender guarantees you will upset someone. People get upset with transgender people who choose to inhabit a third gender space rather than "pick a side." Some get upset at transgender people who do not eschew their birth histories. Others get up in arms with those who opted out of surgical options, instead living with their original equipment. Ire is raised at those who transition, then transition again when they decide that their initial change was not the right answer for them. Heck, some get their dander up simply because this or that transgender person simply is not "trying hard enough" to be a particular gender, whatever that means. Some are irked that the Logo program RuPaul's Drag Race shows a version of transgender life different from their own. Meanwhile, all around are those who have decided they aren't comfortable with the lot of us, because we dared to change from one gender expression or identity to some other. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: You can have great autonomy in the things you choose to learn and pursue on You can have great autonomy in the things you choose to learn and pursue on your own time. When you're learning things that interest you, challenge you, and make life worth living, getting an education can be blissful and stimulating. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Let's stop pretending that we have all the answers, because when it comes to gender, Let's stop pretending that we have all the answers, because when it comes to gender, none of us is fucking omniscient. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: We grew up creating this whole world view for ourselves because it's not there in We grew up creating this whole world view for ourselves because it's not there in the culture. What am I? And I have to build this world view in the absence of books, radio and television, anything, even conversation, Mom or Dad or brother or sister or friends. I have to build a world view of who I am or I go stark, raving mad. Every transsexual in the past has had to do this. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Happy is a poor word for someone who's trying to live a rainbow-colored life in Happy is a poor word for someone who's trying to live a rainbow-colored life in a black-and-white world. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The choice between two of something is not a choice at all, but rather the The choice between two of something is not a choice at all, but rather the opportunity to subscribe to the value system which holds the two presented choices as mutually exclusive alternatives. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The differences in the way men and women are treated are real. And the fact The differences in the way men and women are treated are real. And the fact is this difference in treatment has no basis in the differences between men and women. I was the same person, and I was treated entirely differently. I got real interested in feminist theory
real fast. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: It is important to note that the relevant factor to sexual harassment in this story It is important to note that the relevant factor to sexual harassment in this story is not gender identity but gender perception. Some friends and acquaintances who have experienced harassment do not, in fact, identify as women; they were perceived as women. As I sought support, the key issue was not their gender identity, but the gender signifiers that led them to be perceived as women. If we don't admit that sexual harassment is a gendered experience, we can never shed light on the sexism implicit in many cases of harassment. However, in addressing these sorts of gendered experiences, we may find that gender identity is not the most useful category. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: As an exercise, can you recall the last time you saw someone whose gender was As an exercise, can you recall the last time you saw someone whose gender was ambiguous? Was this person attractive to you? And if you knew they called themselves neither a man nor a woman, what would it make you if you're attracted to that person? And if you were to kiss? Make love? What would you be? — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: We change our attitudes, our careers, our relationships. Even our age changes minute by minute. We change our attitudes, our careers, our relationships. Even our age changes minute by minute. We change our politics, our moods, and our sexual preferences. We change our outlook, we change our minds, we change our sympathies. Yet when someone changes hir gender, we put hir on some television talk show. Well, here's what I think: I think we all of us do change our genders. All the time. Maybe it's not as dramatic as some tabloid headline screaming "She Was A He!" But we do, each of us, change our genders. In response to each interaction we have with a new or different person, we subtly shift the kind of man or woman, boy or girl, or whatever gender we're being at the moment. We're usually not the same kind of man or woman with our lover as we are with our boss or a parent. When we're introduced for the first time to someone we find attractive, we shift into being a different kind of man or woman than we are with our childhood friends. We all change our genders. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I see fashion as a proclamation or manifestation of identity, so, as long as identities I see fashion as a proclamation or manifestation of identity, so, as long as identities are important, fashion will continue to be important. The link between fashion and identity begins to get real interesting, however, in the case of people who don't fall clearly into a culturally-recognized identity. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: There's a simple way to look at gender: Once upon a time, someone drew a There's a simple way to look at gender: Once upon a time, someone drew a line in the sans of culture and proclaimed with great self-importance, 'On this site, you are a man; on the other side, you are a woman.' It's time for the winds of change to blow that line away. Simple. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Those times when I couldn't stand what I was, and I didn't know how I Those times when I couldn't stand what I was, and I didn't know how I could possibly be something else. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I love the idea of being without an identity, it gives me a lot of I love the idea of being without an identity, it gives me a lot of room to play around; but it makes me dizzy, having nowhere to hang my hat. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: To see cartoon-me positioned (alphabetically) amongst so many of my women heroes and role models To see cartoon-me positioned (alphabetically) amongst so many of my women heroes and role models ... well, I just broke down and cried. Happy tears. I surely hope that this one-of-a-kind collection of radical American women reaches the hands of all children who want to grow up and become amazing women. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The current transgender movement is composed of a great number of factions, divided by those The current transgender movement is composed of a great number of factions, divided by those old favorites of class, race, age, language, region, and nationality. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Look, nearly everything in the culture says we're freaks. Doing sex work, we're desired; we Look, nearly everything in the culture says we're freaks. Doing sex work, we're desired; we can get rewarded for being what we've always wanted to be. What's so bad about that? My own notion is I wish sex work would be decriminalized (not legalized, please note the distinction) so that more trannies could get into the field if they wanted to and not get into trouble for it. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: When you're a Scientologist it's like the movie Goodfellas, where the gangsters hang out with When you're a Scientologist it's like the movie Goodfellas, where the gangsters hang out with only other gangsters. We only hung out with each other, so we knew we were saving the world. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: No matter how your world falls apart-and honey, that's what happens: we all build ourselves No matter how your world falls apart-and honey, that's what happens: we all build ourselves a world, and then it falls apart-but no matter how that happens, you still have the kind heart you've had since you were a child, and that's all that really counts. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: You can support trans-positive legislation, tranny artists, and the inclusion of trannies in your neighborhood, You can support trans-positive legislation, tranny artists, and the inclusion of trannies in your neighborhood, schools, place of worship, whatever. For the long term? Join or initiate some good legal battles against the puritanical laws that exist around sex and gender. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Male privilege is assuming one has the right to occupy any space or person by Male privilege is assuming one has the right to occupy any space or person by whatever means, with or without permission. It's a sense of entitlement that's unique to those who have been raised male in most cultures - it's notably absent in most girls and women. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein S. Bear Bergman: I know what I am. I know that I've chosen to identify as a transgender I know what I am. I know that I've chosen to identify as a transgender woman, and that I am - by and large - happy with where I am in this world. I'm far from perfect, and I could give you a list as long as my arms of the things I'd love to change. Nevertheless, I am still here, and I am still me, and no one can change that without my permission.
-Gwendolyn Ann Smith, We're All Someone's Freak — Kate Bornstein S. Bear Bergman
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Some actors wear their roles like clothing," he said. "No matter what part they're playing, Some actors wear their roles like clothing," he said. "No matter what part they're playing, you can always easily see who it is beneath the costume."
"It's how drag queens do women, darling," volunteered the elegant Miss X.
[ ... ]
"The really amazing actors strip themselves down to nothing-they make themselves a blank slate, and you can never guess what they're going to look like or act like in their next film because they completely transform themselves."
"It's how transsexuals do women, darling," opined Doris Fish with an arched eyebrow in my direction. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: When we talk about my gender as though it were a performance, we let the When we talk about my gender as though it were a performance, we let the audience - with all their expectations, prejudices, and presumptions - completely off the hook. - Scott Turner Schofield — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The GEnder Defender is someone who actively, or by knowing inaction, defends the status quo The GEnder Defender is someone who actively, or by knowing inaction, defends the status quo of the existing gender system, and thus perpetuates the violence of male privilege and all its social extensions. The gender defender, or gender terrorist, is someone for whom gender forms a cornerstone of their view of the world. Shake gender up for one of these folks, and you're in trouble. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: We just want to identify the "real" freaks, so we can feel closer to normal. We just want to identify the "real" freaks, so we can feel closer to normal. In reality, not a single one of us is so magically normative as to claim the right to separate out the freaks from everyone else. We are all freaks to someone. Maybe even - if we're honest - to ourselves. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Disney will never make a movie about my life story, and that's a shameI'd make Disney will never make a movie about my life story, and that's a shame
I'd make a really cute animated creature. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: What is a man? What is a woman? And why do we have to be What is a man? What is a woman? And why do we have to be one or the other? — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Given any binary, it's fun to look for some hidden third, and the reason why Given any binary, it's fun to look for some hidden third, and the reason why the third was hidden says a lot about culture. The choice between two of something is not a choice at all, but rather the opportunity to subscribe to the value system which holds the two presented choices as mutually exclusive alternatives. Once we choose one or the other, we've bought into the system that perpetuates the binary. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I know I'm not a man-about that much I'm very clear, and I've come to I know I'm not a man-about that much I'm very clear, and I've come to the conclusion that I'm probably not a woman either, at least not according to a lot of people's rules on this sort of thing. The trouble is, we're living in a world that insists we be one or the other-a world that doesn't bother to tell us exactly what one or the other is. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Is it a boy or a girl ?". There is a great answer to that Is it a boy or a girl ?". There is a great answer to that one going around : "We don't know ; it hasn't told us yet. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Definitions have their uses in much the same way that road signs make it easy Definitions have their uses in much the same way that road signs make it easy to travel: they point out the directions. But you don't get where you're going when you just stand underneath some sign, waiting for it to tell you what to do. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein S. Bear Bergman: Trauma or no, I would have been trans no matter what body I'd been born Trauma or no, I would have been trans no matter what body I'd been born with. Tell the doctors that we exist for the health of humanity, which needs to find wholeness and belief in complexity. Girl in boy's body or boy inside a girl; call it fate or biology, will, or spiritual choice. But I was not born in the wrong body.
-Scott Turner Schofield, The Wrong Body — Kate Bornstein S. Bear Bergman
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: ... gender is not sane. It's not sane to call a rainbow black and white. ... gender is not sane. It's not sane to call a rainbow black and white. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: I was a lonely, frightened little fat kid who felt there was something deeply wrong I was a lonely, frightened little fat kid who felt there was something deeply wrong with me because I didn't feel like I was the gender I'd been assigned. I felt there was something wrong with me, something sick and twisted inside me, something very very bad about me. And everything I read backed that up. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Gender is used as a control mechanism that's just wrong. Gender is never anything to Gender is used as a control mechanism that's just wrong. Gender is never anything to struggle with; gender is something to play with. Once you're free of the rules that all these hierarchical, oppressive systems place on gender, that's the tricky part. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Just across the ocean in, say Kenya or Tanzania, a two-gender system is vital for Just across the ocean in, say Kenya or Tanzania, a two-gender system is vital for the survival of most of the folks who live there. Men do men's work, women do women's work, and so it all gets done and the jackals can't get into the hut and eat grandpa. So, the future of the transgender movement is like the future of all human rights movements: whatever the state of things in your area now, with some work it all gets a little bit better all the time, even if it is sometimes three steps ahead and two steps back. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: Sex is f-king, everything else is gender. Sex is f-king, everything else is gender. — Kate Bornstein
Kate Bornstein Sayings By Kate Bornstein: The real problem devolves around class lines once again: it's the street hormones that folks The real problem devolves around class lines once again: it's the street hormones that folks without insurance, or folks who are too young for prescriptions without parental okay, use. Sometimes those hormones can be pretty rough. — Kate Bornstein